Double penetration can be an amazingly stimulating and arousing experience for anyone. Often DP is though of as a taboo sexual act (even in the most sex positive arenas), but it’s simply just another way we can explore what feels good in our bodies.
What is Double Penetration?
Double Penetration seems like it might be self explanatory but many people don’t truly understand what it is or how it works. DP is most commonly seen as someone with a vagina being penetrated in both their vagina and anus by two people with penises. However, if we strip away the binary and heteronormative expectations of this description, there are a vast number of additional ways to interpret the term double penetration. There are so many ways to be dual penetrated for many types of bodies and in many scenarios. For example, you could choose penetration in two separate holes or dual penetrate one orifice. There are also ways to explore what you get penetrated with and by whom. Will a partner be using their penis or a strap-on and an additional toy or dildo? Will this be a group activity with two or more partners, or even a solo masturbation exploration? There are many ways that double penetration can be explored and tailored to your circumstances.
Double penetration can be pleasurable in many different ways. The ‘filled up’ / ‘stretched’ feeling from being DP’d can be intensely pleasurable for people with all types of bodies. Additionally, extra pressure on either the G spot or P spot can intensify orgasms. Because of its taboo history, some people find double penetration a naughty and therefore very mentally arousing act. DP can be combined with other fantasies and desires like threesomes/group sex, strap-on play, toy use, and dominance/submission.
How to prepare
Like most things in life and sex, preparation is key to having a positive DP experience. Firstly, you need to decide who (if anyone) is going to participate and have a discussion beforehand. Aside from the typical consent, STI, and pregnancy prevention conversations, be sure that everyone has a clear understanding of what double penetration is and what role they will be playing. Discuss everyone’s boundaries, experience, and concerns, while also planning any additional elements you want to incorporate into this fantasy (like some BDSM play or roleplay).
Next you need to get your toys and tools! Lube is a universal must for a comfortable and enjoyable DP experience, no matter what the arrangement is. Opt for a long lasting body-safe lubricant and keep it on hand during during the experience. If you’re planning on using silicone toys, a thick water-based lube like Sliquid’s Organic Natural Gel Water-based Lube is ideal. A silicone lube will offer longer-lasting playtime with a smoother feel — great for when no silicone toys are being used. Check out our Silicone lube options here.
If you are the receiver in your DP arrangement, have authority over the insertibles that will be used. If you’re using toys and plugs, be sure you are comfortable with the size and shape, possibly spending some time exploring them solo before any partnered play happens. Sometimes it can be helpful to have a few sizes of dildos and plugs available to be able to adjust your plan if toys seem too filling or not enough.
If you are using harnesses, try them on beforehand to make sure they’re comfortable, adjusted to the right size, and can be used in the right position. Remember there are many harness styles, including single dildo harnesses, double dildo harnesses, and even harnesses that can be strapped onto your thigh. No matter what your experience or ability, there are toys available to match your needs.
Getting it on
It’s essential that everyone is comfortable and relaxed, especially the person who is being penetrated. Having an orgasm (or a few!) before can help relax the pelvic and anal muscles, making any further penetration easier. This is especially helpful for vagina owners.
Position is extremely important. The key is to find a position that allows the person being penetrated to adjust the angle via tilting their hips while also having control over the depth. Variations on doggy style, ‘cowgirl’, missionary, and spooning work well but it may take a few adjustments to ensure everyone is comfortable. Sex wedges and pillows can come in handy in helping you achieve some bedroom acrobatics that double penetration can entail.
Refrain from diving straight in and instead take your time to work up to the main event. Remember, double penetration is an intense feeling so starting with just one toy or penis can help you ease into the situation. When the person who is receiving feels comfortable and consents, start adding additional penetration via fingers and smaller toys before doubling up. Try incorporating extra stimulation via the clit, nipples, perineum, or penis to add even more pleasurable sensations.
Don’t be disappointed if DP doesn’t work out for you the first time. It takes practice for your body to get used to such an intense sensation so it may require a couple of tries for it to feel right. Be flexible with your original plan and don’t be discouraged if you need to adapt or change course.
Our Favorite DP Toys & Tools
Deuce Harness
The harness of our DP dreams, the SpareParts Deuce Harness making being penetrated by one partner so much easier. To be worn either by a person using their penis and an additional toy or two toys together, the Deuce harness allows for a single partner to deliver twice the pleasure. Soft yet sturdy, this ultra comfortable harness is high on our list of DP essentials.
Cock Rings
A cock ring can be a great tool during DP play. Cock rings work by restricting the blood flow in the shaft of the penis in a safe way. Added restriction makes an erection harder and helps it last longer. This can be helpful during DP as a firmer erection is easier to navigate.
Temptasia Elvira Dildo
The perfect fit between a dildo and a butt plug, the Temptasia Elvira Dildo is a thick and short toy perfect for achieving the desired filling sensation double penetration brings. Silky smooth with a gentle curve, the Elvira dildo is ideal on a range on bodies to hit just the right spots.
Double Penetration Pro-tips
Pro-tip: Do not switch penises or toys between different orifices without washing or cleaning them first. The bacteria that is present in your anus is harmful to the natural bacteria present in the vagina.
Pro-tip: If anything is going into your butt it must have a flared base for you to be safe. It’s really easy to lose grip of a toy when you’re using it, and a flared base will help prevent it from being pulled up inside of your body.
Pro-tip: If you're wanted to be penetrated anally, inserting a plug before your play begins will help your anal sphincter muscles to stretch and then relax around the toy. This prep should make penetration easier.
